Breaking the Binary: Why Personalized Books Shouldn’t Limit Children to “Boy” or “Girl

Personalized books have become increasingly popular in recent years, allowing children to see themselves reflected in the stories they read. However, many of these books still limit children to the binary choices of “boy” or “girl.” Here are the top reasons why this is unnecessary and even harmful:

  1. Gender is not a binary, but is rather an entire galaxy of possibilities. In other words, children should not be limited to identifying as just “boy” or “girl.” Many children identify as non-binary, genderfluid, or somewhere in between. By limiting children to the binary choices of “boy” or “girl,” we are excluding children who don’t fit into these categories.
  2. Children’s gender identity is fluid. Children’s understanding of their own gender identity may change as they grow and develop. Thus, by limiting them to a specific gender in a personalized book, we are not allowing them the freedom to explore and understand their own gender identity.
  3. Children’s books should be inclusive. Personalized children’s books should be inclusive of all children, regardless of their gender identity. By limiting children to “boy” or “girl” choices, we are not providing the representation that all children deserve.
  4. Children’s books can be a tool for promoting understanding and acceptance. By including diverse and inclusive representation in children’s books, we can help children develop empathy and understanding toward others. This can lead to a more just and equitable society.
  5. Children’s books should challenge harmful stereotypes and prejudices. By limiting children to “boy” or “girl” choices, we are perpetuating harmful stereotypes and prejudices about gender.

In conclusion, children’s books should be inclusive of all children, regardless of their gender identity. By not limiting children to “boy” or “girl” choices in personalized books, we can help children understand that there is no one “right” way to be a child, and that all identities are valuable and deserving of representation and acceptance.

As you can see, personalized books that limit children to “boy” or “girl” are not only unnecessary but also harmful. We believe that representation matters and that all children deserve to see themselves in the literature they read. And that is why we’ve created a guide of 50 diverse, inclusive, and empowering children’s books that feature a wide range of characters, including those with non-binary and transgender identities. Head over to Cosmic Unicorns Download the eBook to download your guide today and start reading with your little ones and help them to see the world in a more diverse and inclusive way.

Raising a non-binary or transgender child can be challenging, but there are resources available to help you navigate the journey. Two great resources to check out are Raising My Rainbow and Gender Creative Kids Canada. Raising My Rainbow is a blog written by a mother who shares her experiences raising a gender-nonconforming son, offering insight and advice for other parents. Gender Creative Kids Canada is a nonprofit organization that provides resources and support for families raising gender-creative children. Both of these resources can be incredibly helpful in providing guidance and support as you navigate the unique challenges of raising a non-binary or transgender child.

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